0005 International Dating And Uk Dating Compared

If you are a man, and you have ever been dumped, then you may have experienced being single for a long period of time. I myself have been married and divorced, and can think back to long periods where I was single. Why was it that many of my or my friends ex girl friends had another boy friend within a couple of weeks. Why could I, or indeed many of my friends, not find another girlfriend so quickly. Yes, I must be a weirdo:) Or is there another reason, a more factual explanation?

UK dating sites

To start with, it is a fact that the ratios of men to women in the UK is stacked against men. To my knowledge, there are approximately one and a half million more men in the UK than women. You do not need the brains of an Arch Bishop, to realise that this statistic alone could cause problems when it comes to dating.

A short while ago, C4 did a programme about "gigolos". They interviewed many women to ask them if they would use the services of a gigolo if the need or desire arose. The common outcome was that there would be no need. All a woman has to do to meet a potential partner is "go to a bar". If only it was so easy for a man. Go to any bar or club in the UK, and the statistics are approximately 80 / 20 singles, that being 80% men are single, as opposed to 20% women are single - at best. UK dating sites are similarly weighted. That is why a women could write on her profile: "If your not 6ft tall, dark and handsome, with a top of the range car, house, and job, with the ability to make me laugh", please do not apply. Of course this is stereotyping against women, but when the odds are stacked against you, it is hard not to. More often than not, if a man comes out of a relationship or marriage, they are always single for much longer than the woman - on average.

Aside from dating sites, or meeting people socially, at work for example, some people have tried to widen their social circle by using Networking sites. I recently joined a very popular networking site, and the ratio of men to women was about 90 / 10, again I think the average is 80 / 20 to be optimistic. Of course networking is for business, but it simply highlights ratios when it comes to meeting the opposite sex. By the way, it is indeed possible to meet a partner via a networking site, but the fact that many never even remove profiles (you could be talking to a deceased person), and many only require an email to register (you could be talking to a phantom (well, I mean a man or a fictitious profile for other subversive reasons), then it is far from the ideal forum. We insist on not only passport identification, but all ladies have unique and verified phone numbers on our sited.

So, my conclusion about UK dating is that it is at least five times harder for a man to find a suitable partner, than it is for a women, which also takes into consideration the law of attraction. Spending money on sites that are heavily weighted against you does not sound like money well spent. I've wasted a lot of money myself, that's why I looked beyond the UK.

So, scam companies aside, the main problem with UK dating is that the ratios are stacked against men. I suppose the answer to becoming successful at dating in the UK, if you have not already got the "gift of the gab, the looks, the job etc" is to study dating advice websites etc. Ultimately, we just want to be ourselves, though there is nothing wrong with learning how to improve opportunities, but what is the use of that, if the likelihood of putting those skills in to practice is remote also.

International Dating Sites

Now this is another story. Worst case scenario is that the odds are even. I would argue that with the right guidance, the odds are stacked in the mans favour, if they know where to go. However, it is not as simple as just knowing where to go, because the problem with international dating is that there are too many scam companies. I have already wrote articles on International Dating Security Tips, so I will not dwell on how to avoid the scams right now, but watch out for that article, it is very important. I am just making the point that the dating problems are different, dependent on location, and if you go where the odds are in your favour, you can be as selective as women can be in the UK, when choosing a partner. You won't need any "dating doctor advice" if you are meeting 10 or 20 ladies, you will just wait for the chemistry to kick in, and don't forget, the initial desire to meet will have been confirmed, not to mention you will have wrote to each other about each others interests and experiences.

Conclusion

You can only learn that what I say is true, by giving it a try, if you do not want to stay single. I had to learn the hard way which makes the charges on my site dwindle in to insignificance. You can try the UK dating sites but you will need very thick skin to handle the poor response rates. Try the international dating sites, as long as you follow my security tips. What ever you do, make sure you use your common sense, but don't forget please consider the "International Dating Security Tips" on our site map, or that will be emailed to you shortly. Following these steps will save you time, and possibly a great deal of grief, and the outcome could be quite exciting, not to mention, enlightening.

Thank you for taking time to read this article. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact Steve Fowler.

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